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Hungry For Change

I don’t make New Year’s resolutions. To be honest, I don’t believe they work. I am the first to admit I don’t really hold myself accountable for a promise I make to myself and possibly a few other people who might be sharing a glass of champagne with me. Instead, I like to do a little soul-searching and reflect on what I have learned about myself or the world around me over the past year. Sometimes it’s a lot of things and other times, very little. But my one goal has always been to change the things I can and accept the things I can’t.

The world is constantly moving. “Duh,” you say? Well, I have to make myself aware of this truth. Sometimes, I dig my feet in and refuse to be a part of that change. Life is easier on my front porch, in my little office, curled up on my couch, etc., but the world is a big and beautiful place, and I can change because I don’t want to hear about an awesome sunrise, I want to see it!

 I used to rearrange my furniture every six months or less and in doing so, it somehow made everything seem fresh and new. This is the longest I’ve lived in one house and therefore my furniture has been in every possible configuration. I gave up and nothing moved for a long, long, time; at least long for me. Now, things are on the move again which makes me think it’s because I either have a problem, or I’m hungry for a change.

Writing is something I enjoy doing. It satisfies that creative side of me that I can’t seem to define. I have this strange desire to create something and if I don’t feed the beast with words, I would be painting, building, tearing down, and rebuilding like a carpenter on steroids. I might crochet an entire wardrobe for my daughter, fill the yard with flower beds, or turn my basement into a spa. Hmmm…  Where was I? Oh yeah, for me, writing is a very personal experience that I share with the world. Those are my thoughts, my words, my imagination, and not everyone is going to like what I have to say, but that’s okay. It’s hard to put yourself out there to be judged and it’s hard not to take criticism personally, but I’m learning.  You don’t have to be my friend to like my writing, and you don’t have to like my writing to be my friend!

Early in the spring season when it’s 65 degrees, I’m jumping into a pair of shorts and my husband is rushing to the lake for an eagerly anticipated boat day. Late in the fall season when it’s 65 degrees, I’m jumping into a snuggly sweater and my husband is rushing to the lake for an unexpected boat day. What I have come to realize is that my husband is always looking for a boat day and I wouldn’t change that if I could.

Off the top of my head and in no particular order, my favorite shows—past or present—are True Blood, The Tudors, Game of Thrones, Vampire Diaries, Breaking Bad, Survivor, Lost, Walking Dead. I’m addicted to coffee, I eat popcorn at movies, I sing really loud and off-key when I’m alone in the car because it feels good, and the taste of chocolate still makes me crave a piece of bologna. What does this say about me?

The past several years I have lived an unhealthy, sedentary life. Time and age is creeping up on me and I have discovered I’m not as flexible as I used to be. Maybe I took my youth for granted which is the way of the world, but now I feel like I’m too young to be this old. I’m moving slower and groaning more. “A body in motion stays in motion and a body at rest stays at rest” is true! I’m not lazy, far from it. I’m not an athlete either, but this year I kind of want to be. So, I have made a change and boy am I feeling it. Three days a week I am working out with a trainer and challenging myself mentally and physically! When I want to give up in the middle of a set, I think about hiking with my family, sailing in the BVI, skiing, sledding, snorkeling etc., and I push myself to get back to living in the world I love! 

In the spirit of change, I am weeding out bad habits, one of which is nail-biting. I didn’t make a conscious effort to stop, it just happened, sort of. Maybe I learned to chill a little bit more or maybe it was those few days of yoga I did with my daughter right before Christmas, I’m not sure. One day, I went to bite a nail and realized it was too long and the thought of biting a real fingernail freaked me out. Unfortunately, one nail on each hand was still pretty short so I’ve yet to give those up, but I’m working on it. 

I’m afraid of failure but I’m afraid of success and I’m still trying to figure out how to change that.

When my son of seventeen years died in a car accident, it left a hole in my heart. I waited a long time for it to heal, but it never did. I have come to realize that it never will because a part of me died with him. The pain will always be there, I’m just learning to live with it. 

Keeping a positive attitude is a challenge for me and I have to remind myself every day of all the good things. Surrounding myself with energetic, upbeat personalities is helpful and I’m damn thankful I am married to one. I have a lot of great people in my life, and I appreciate every single one of them.     

In my late thirties, I began to notice my age in pictures. I avoided being photographed whenever possible, as if that was the only way anyone could see the fine lines/wrinkles, or that random gray hair that spiraled straight up on the crown of my head. When Justin died, I found very few pictures of the two of us together; it was disturbing, vain, and selfish. I will never have the opportunity to take more. This realization has begun to change the way I see myself in photos. The person I see in pictures is the same person I see in the mirror, and therefore the same person the world sees. If I don’t love me, how can I expect anyone else to? With Instagram, Snapchat, and Facebook, I have learned to let go of my insecurities and embrace my “selfies”.  It’s one thing to take a funny or somewhat creepy photo of myself; it’s liberating to share it with the world! I recommend at least one “selfie” a month!

With the support of great friends and family, 2014 is the year of moving forward—one step at a time. I am learning to accept help as well as to give it, to love myself and the life I am living, and to find humor in the world around me; because smiles become giggles and giggles become laughter, and nothing feeds the soul better! 

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I’m not a turkey

It’s that time of year again. Time to get up early, take on a few turkeys, and spend countless hours preparing for that big moment.  Friends and family will gather, and though there is much to be thankful for, the occasion will be bittersweet. It is the end of an era, the end of a tradition, and yes; it is the end of the Twilight Saga’s midnight premiere!

It all started July 7, 2008—over four years ago.  My daughter was eleven and had been anxiously waiting for the release of the final book, Breaking Dawn. I had not yet read the books and wasn’t sure what all the hysteria was about, but being the “supportive” Mom that I am, I escorted my daughter to our local Borders book store for a midnight release. Barely able to stay awake and totally confused by the Team Edward/Team Jacob debate, I watched my daughter as she answered trivia questions with delight. It was four months before I read the books for myself.

I have always been a fan of vampires, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer was my all-time fave. I didn’t watch it when it was a popular TV series, (I was a late bloomer) I purchased the seasons on DVD. Years later, I introduced my daughter to the sometimes corny but always entertaining Buffy. We spent an entire summer watching every episode. I knew our bond was special when I discovered she secretly rooted for a Spike and Buffy love affair. And who can resist the love triangle between Stephan, Damon, and Elena on Vampire Diaries?

When the Twilight movies hit the big screen, it became an annual event of sitting in long lines, playing games, and standing up to all those die-hard-twi-hard fans that were certain we were there to steal their seats. This year, things were different. It began in the morning with a short stint in line for an 11:20 showing of the first movie, Twilight. With thirty minutes between shows, we sat through four movies before the big finale, which didn’t disappoint!

I won’t lie; I dozed off a few times. (Am I the only one that thinks Jacob is a big whiner?) But the big moment came halfway through Breaking Dawn Part One. Since having my sinus surgery in October, my head has never been clearer. So now that I can breathe freely, I have discovered allergies. Yes, I am sneezing twenty times a day.  In a quiet and very dramatic scene, I sneezed five times. But it didn’t stop there. I felt the tickle of a lingering sneeze and fought to hold it in.  Impossible.  It came out in a high-pitched ACHOO!!  My girlfriends giggled, and snickers could be heard around the theatre. Then, the room fell silent again–you could have heard a pin drop. That’s when I went into a giggle fit that I couldn’t control. It was contagious. The more I laughed, the more my girlfriends laughed. I was a slobbering, snorting, tearing mess as I held my hand over my mouth and made a quick escape to the lobby.

This is a tick that has haunted me since I was a young girl. I once laughed myself to the principal’s office when a giggle fit started in class during testing. I was terrified to be in trouble, but for some reason, I couldn’t stop–even as I sat in front of the principal, who by now was questioning my sanity. To this day, I don’t know what was so funny.

As children, we laugh at everything—farts, burps, it doesn’t matter. As adults, laughter is harder to obtain and most often comes in the form of a chuckle or snicker. But just like crying, which has healthful benefits—stress relief, removal of toxins, and an increase in endorphins (the good mood hormones)—laughter is healthy too. Here are a few things laughter can do for you:

  • Boost immunities
  • Bring joy and zest to life
  • Relieve stress
  • Reduce anxiety and fear

It’s not always easy to laugh, trust me; I know. So here are a few tips for this holiday season.

SMILE:  It’s where laughter begins and is highly contagious!

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE:  People who laugh at life’s absurdities can find humor in ordinary events.

KEEP A HEALTHY PERSPECTIVE:  Remember, many things in life are beyond your control.

LAUGH AT YOURSELF: I do this frequently. The best way is to talk about the times you took yourself too seriously.

COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS: Consider the good things in your life and be thankful. A state of sadness means you have less room for humor and laughter.

DON’T BE A TURKEY:  Be the positive in someone else’s life and it will make a difference in yours.

Spread the love, share a smile, and have a Happy Thanksgiving!

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